It’s that time of year. Thanksgiving is just days away, December is already jam-packed with holiday parties, and plans for New Years are taking shape. While these celebrations are meant to be happy and light, there’s a lot that comes with the territory of intimate gatherings — i.e. those sometimes awkward conversations. Last year, we debuted our first article, WTF, You Can’t Say That at the Holiday Table, and this season we’re giving it a refresh (there’s still a lot to learn, folks!). Read up on what topics to avoid below, and just remember — always go for LOL, not WTF.
I don’t like [insert certain food].
First of all, no one asked. Second of all, there’s no need to diss the chef in the room — who’s likely spent long, selfless hours preparing. Particularly on Thanksgiving, it’s important to keep your food criticism to yourself. If you see something that’s not to your taste just quietly move on by. After all, what’s worse than making everyone else feel uncomfortable? Even if you’re used to potatoes covered in caviar and gold, keep it to yourself.How about [insert current event]?
Let’s just say there are plenty of current events topics you might want to sidestep this year — from politics to sports to global affairs. If you’re not willing to have an open, unbiased conversation about something, don’t bring it up. Simple as that. Whether that’s a discussion about the outcomes of the latest election or the Rams’ (uncertain) chances of making the playoffs this year, it might be wise to just stick to something light.Why are you still single?!
Need we explain this one? Your intentions might be good, but the question itself is quite intrusive. And potentially damaging if it’s a sore subject for the single guy or gal. On the other hand, even if they’re happy about being single, they might not want to be nagged or analyzed at the dinner table. Would you? So, if you’re looking to set up your niece with the boy next door, maybe save it for another time when 10 others can’t chime in.You sure know how to put it away!
Whatever you do around the table, don’t comment on someone’s eating — especially when it’s an indulgent holiday meal. Who wants to be told to put down the fork when there’s stuffing calling your name? Even if you’re SO said they’re on a diet, allow them a good ‘ol cheat day, okay? Holiday meals weren’t designed to be healthy, so let it go.How much money are you making now?
Maybe a family member got a shiny new job, or perhaps a friend just got promoted. Hooray! Both are hugely exciting. Just don’t kill the moment by asking how much money they’re making now. In fact, this is a general life faux pas, and is arguably worse than bringing up politics or religion — even if the person you plan to ask would love to be asked (you know the type).Nothing.
What’s worse than asking bad questions is not asking them at all. Whether you know the people around the dinner table or not, try your best to make small talk and engage in meaningful conversations. At the end of the day, it’ll benefit everyone — you won’t feel awkward, the others won’t question your friendliness. Overall, the holiday season is a time to give thanks and spend quality time with those you love, so be present and put your best foot forward.What else should you never say at the table? We want to hear your stories! Shoot us an email at [email protected] and let’s chew it over.